So, I have been thinking this one over for a while. And it really has nothing to do with travel, kids, business whatever. It has to do with how we treat one another. I am ready to drop FB. Ready to be done with it- seriously. But I like reading my normal friends posts and seeing my relatives pictures. Otherwise I would be done.
I often wonder if people would talk to or about each other face to face the way they do on Facebook.
Case in point- I belong to a Travel Agent group. And it happens to focus on Disney. The only qualifier for the group is that people be a travel agent and sell Disney. There has been a thread going on for about two days about how annoying it is to read posts from people who clearly “don’t know anything about Disney.” Of course, those making the assumption the other agents don’t know anything about Disney are just basically empty profiles on some other computer. They are self-proclaimed experts, who because they are on Facebook, get to judge, bully and basically be completely disrespectful because a few people posted basic questions.
I guess my attitude has always been to scroll past posts I do not have time for, don’t agree with or basically don’t have anything nice to say. I wish more people would just follow the rule all our mother’s taught us- If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. But it seems like people on Facebook have completely forgotten the rule.
I don’t understand it. I am constantly in contact with people who are always striving to better people. Maybe because I find myself surrounded by those people in real life it’s shocking to find that we are in the minority?
I mean who are these people on Facebook who have enough time to be so judgmental? I mean, I seriously, hardly have time to get a shower most days. I don’t have time to read everyone’s posts and comment AND go on a diatribe about how much better I am at anything. Seriously, humanity, get a grip.
I am tired of having to feel the need to “clean house” on Facebook. And as I am writing I guess I came to the realization that most of the drama comes from groups, not from my personal feed. Which means, I guess, that I clean house on the groups. Some are professional, some are not and so I am torn. Do I stay in the ones I use for any sort of professional activity? Or do I just mass drop and find some normal? I left a moms group after people were calling other moms Douche Bags because of vaccines. Yup, it actually happened. I am pretty sure if we were at a park or a play date there would have been no name calling.
The last straw really has been this thread about people not doing enough independent research before posting a question in a travel agent group. I mean really, why not just scroll past?
I really think this sense of community on Facebook is false. (Okay, not for the moms I know, I really enjoy seeing a beer toast at five o’clock) I don’t feel that people treat each other kindly. And I find the basic anonymity means people act worse. I imagine there are even darker corners than my Disney group but I have no desire to go there. When did it become okay to be rude to strangers? When did it become okay to become a judgmental bitch because you have a Facebook account?
Sorry, is this a rant? Maybe, But I am so done with it. Or maybe I will start a Kindness Counts Campaign for adults like they did in my daughter’s kindergarten classroom. Whatever, maybe its time to re-evaluate, maybe it’s time to kill with kindness, maybe it’s time to just jump ship. I don’t know.
The only thing I know for sure is that every time I leave a group or block someone there is somebody else willing to step and be a bully. I hate to think that my children will have to deal with it, especially since we are constantly trying to teach them to be kind to others.
Their profile pictures indicate normal but they are mean. And I wonder if we met face to face would they be able to say those things to my face?